Not trying to be mean...but it is VERY true?

okei..so when ever my mom gets mad..my mom drags my dad into it...but when she leaves the house and we explain to my dad what REALLY happened...he will be all like ';you guys know your mother...she will get over it..she will realize it was a stupid thing to get mad over'; or ';i know that you didnt do anything wrong'; so then..when my mom comes back home...she *********.e.s about us and my dad agrees with her...my dad is a pussi when it comes to my mom being angry...SHE HAS EVEN TOLD HIM TO GROW A BACK BONE....but what do i do to make him stick to what he told me and my sisters?Not trying to be mean...but it is VERY true?
Sounds like both your parents have serious issues. It's not uncommon for one parent to agree with the other. Did you ever think that you dad just agrees with her to shut her up? There is no telling just how long he has had to deal with this.


Maybe he doesn't want to deal with her emotional problems anymore.


But here is my idea.....


Have you tried talking to your dad and asking him why he does that? Let your dad know how you feel about him turning his back on you guys, that if he knows that you didn't do anything wrong he should stand up for you and be a man.Not trying to be mean...but it is VERY true?
Remind your dad that your mother was wrong,and if she tries to direspect you tell him to stand up for you.Tell him that your his child and he should have your back no matter what.
This is what I would do, get yourself a micro recorder and get your father to talk about your mom being honest about how he feels, then take your mother aside and let her listen to it. She sounds like she has some serious mental issues that require medical intervention, and your dad is just trying to spare her feeling by not telling her.





Tape recorder.
at least you have a dad you can talk to. be thankful. my dad hates me, my mom, and my sisters, he left a long time ago. talk about a pu*sy.
Try to give your dad a break. He wants to keep the peace on both sides and would rather suffer the wrath of you kids than your mom so he had better agree with her. I don't think it has anything to do with a backbone but he needs to speak up to you kids and your mom that he's not taking sides atleast. But he needs to help mom out also to be a disciplinarian when he thinks it's fit not when mom says it's fit. He can't be afraid of her, he just don't want to deal with it.





Good Luck!
The only reason your dad is still there is most likely because of you kids. I would just about bet that as soon as the youngest of you turns 18 or 21 and is out of the house, he will be filling for divorce.





He has enough back bone to take the crap your mom is dishing out and stick with you all.





He deserves your respect and support as much as possible and soon since he is more likely to grow a pair and file for divorce even soonerwithout it which could leave you kids to face your mom all on your own. Thiink about that before you start calling your father names.