She is certainly missing something in her life.. she wants to get out sometimes and travel. I don't know if she is in a relationship? if not.. or if she is not in a serious relationship maybe she hopes that when you are on vacation you would travel somewhere with her.. or that you go on holiday together.. even if both of you have partners.. she probably would like all of you to go to a holiday destination together...She seems envious.. that she can't go.. Jealousy would mean.. she wants your guy.. envy means to envy you your ability to travel so much in your job... Jealousy is always about wanting the same man.
I think in order to find out for sure what is going on in her thoughts, you as her friend of 20 years should sit down with her, and just bring up this subject and ask her.. I have a best friend.. we have been best friends for 38 years.. I have known her since I was 9 years old and I will be 47 this year.. she is 2 years younger.. she was 7 and I was 9 when we became friends.. after such a long time of friendship I believe one can be absolutely honest with each other... I tell nobody as much about me.. not even my parents or my husband as my best friend knows about me.. she knows me better than everyone.. she tells me sometimes if she believes I did not behave as I should have done.. but she is more than a best friend and more than a sister to me.. and if I feel upset by something she said.. I can talk to her openly about it as well... you should ask her. If she is your friend, she will be honest with you.. to respect each other and to be honest with each other.. is very important in a friendship.. as it also is in a relationship with a man or in a marriage!Is this friend jealous of me? If she is, then does that mean she's not a true friend?
She is not your true friend. But this does not mean that you shouldnt talk to her and try to get her to understand that its her choices that got her where she is at.
Your instincts are right, she's jealous and not a true friend.
She could be a crackhead.
Honey, the only real way that you are going to know this is by asking your friend. People forget to communicate and communication is the key to a healthy relationship. Try asking your friend how she is feeling about your succes, about you traveling and about the guy that you are dating.
Communication with a true friend should be easy and understandable and always sincere. Jealousy, greed and COMPETITION are the most hurtful in a relationship and you's want to eliminate these any chance that you get. You can do this by talking/communicating with your friends and acknowledging your feelings.
She is probably just hurting inside because she is not happy, don't take it to personally, she just needs some help is all. Be straight up with her and let her know your feelings, be careful with your wording though, you don't want to start a fight. Just let her know that you FEEL like she is acting in a jealous manner towards your succes and that you care about her and would not want her to be unhappy. Who knows, she might open up to you about things you did not even think were an issue, a lot of the time thats just it: there is an underlying issue that people don't talk about and they kind of beat around the bush. Just talk to her and remember that you are friends!
She lives a different lifestyle and could have resentment because you do what makes you happen. As they say we work to live we don't live to work. Taking those long breaks gives you time to relax and regenerate. You can work smart or dumb you my have a handle on it. You keep doing what you do and don't let anyone bring you down. My boy is also the traveling kind, He started reading when he was 5 and he not only dreamed but one summer when he was 16 came home with a plane ticket and said he wanted to travel during the summer. I had to think on this seeing how he was young and traveling alone, well it turned out I let him go praying I made the right choice, damn it was sink or swim. Turned out he handled it great hit something like 22 countries, shook hands with the Pope. He kept a journal of his travels if you care to see and you have an email I send the link. or email me, I hear all these kids moaning about being bored with nothing to do, well as you know it's all up to us what we do. He's now in second year at a University straight A's and in for a great journey. You don't change for anyone, you are right for you. I see you have a email look at the boy's journal he is 16 at the time
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