Men....sex is great...I mean fabolous...a dream come true....now what?

I am waiting for my man of almost 4yrs. to propose. We have never lived together. Spent weekends, vacations, etc...but never lived together. Anyway...our sex life is amazing. There is no doubt in my mind that he is not satisfied and completely whipped. He keeps saying he wants to make sure he has a big house for us (we have kids from our previous relationships..none together). How much longer is too long? I also want to mention I am a pretty cool down to earth chick...not a gold digger, controlling, etc..I just know sex is number one for a man...hahahah. Anyway....He says ';hang in there';...bahMen....sex is great...I mean fabolous...a dream come true....now what?
if your relationship is as good as you say then something maybe holding him back..fear of the relationship changing..or just wanting to make sure he can give you everything he wants..or maybe he is hiding something.


ask himMen....sex is great...I mean fabolous...a dream come true....now what?
I am a little confused with your statement about him being whipped. Is he satisfied or not?


Seems like he is waiting for something or maybe someone?


If you are having sex together then it is within your limits to ask him where this relationship is going and when. If you weren't having sex then I could understand the reason for you to say that you were asking for him to propose. That is an old fashioned thought, you know, proposal and such. But this is 2009 and if he can ask, 'Can I make love to you?' You should be able to ask about marriage.
Tell him you are ready for an official commitment and that you don't need the big house. Then tell him that you'd like to be married by June 2010 (or whatever date you choose). He may just like dating, if you like it the way it is keep doing what you are doing, if you want things to change you'll have to change something. Ask about the house fund - how much is in it? How much does he think you need for a down payment?
I have no good advice to give -- I am older (maybe?) hitting 40 and have been with my man only a year.. if he does not propose in the next 6 months, I am moving on... I do not want to wake up one day and say wow I wasted 6 or 10 years with a man who is not going to marry me -- then get dumped and have him run off and marry some chick 4 months after he meets her... no way... I'd rather be the one who gets away if he does not know by now - he'll never know...
4 years? wow that's a long time. not sure what he's waiting on. sex is definately number one in my book. I need the yelling/screaming kind of sex. often.


but maybe he just needs a little space. ';hang in there'; really sounds lame to me though. I mean the big question I have is WHY.
You said:





';There is no doubt in my mind that he is not satisfied and completely whipped.';





Maybe you meant:





';There is no doubt in my mind, that he IS satisfied...'; ????????
Hang in there? He's just using you for sex that's all. You need to give him an ultimatum and if his answer is still the same, then you need to move on because he is not planning for your future together.
Maybe something else is going on that is making him not want to propose. Sorry chick, but sex isnt everything! Its great that you have a nice sex life, but that doesnt mean he's gonna put a ring on your finger.
that's one of the reason he is sticking around is because the sex is good. When some tells you hang not to much longer means forget.it If you held out on the sex for while see how long sticks around
it will all go the same way as your last one, you are too romatically enthusiastic and this is a bad sign,





your doomed to repeat history
I'd cut him loose unless this works for you, because I doubt it going to change. He must like things just as they are or he'd make a move to change it.
If thins are good then don't worry- when the time is right he will ask. Just enjoy the ride my friend! You got a good thing going :-) dont miss it worrying about the nothing stuff
well why would he marry you when your giving up the goods..why buy the cow?when you get the milk for free..
''hang in there''? sounds like he considers himself a prize to work towards.